Can You Overcome The Fear Of Public Speaking?

Can You Overcome The Fear Of Public Speaking?

(stirring music) (upbeat music) – You’ve heard the analogy where, what’s the number one
fear in North America? It’s public speaking, right? Not snake, not death, death is number two. (crowd laughs) Now you didn’t know this, as a leader if you need to
sell and close on the platform, you’ve got all these emotions going on, what happens? (audience member talking) Bad performance. (audience member talking) Yes, yes, no that’s a yes, you lose the audience too, you won’t close anything, that’s for sure. (audience member talking) Mindset. – [Man] Self destruction. – Self destruction. Just like almost like a button that’s gonna explode.
(crowd laughs) Self destruction, yes maybe, maybe. (audience member talking) Huh? (audience member talking) Time’s everything up there, but do you know why you feel this way? No, but where does it come from? – [Woman] Lack of practice. – Lack of practice, lack of practice. – [Man] Lack of knowledge. – You know that’s like, think about when little kids, right, when they are few years old, you’ve all noticed, little kids, they speak very loud. Right? ‘Cause kids, they just, and then you got to tell, how many have kids? Right, you got to tell your kids to what? – Quiet down.
– Quiet down. You’re too loud, right? We’re in public, right? Shh, right? How many of you have done
that as a parent, right? Shh, right? And your parents did that to you, when you’re growing up. Many many many many times. So what happens, you associate, oh if I speak loud, which is a form of public speaking, right? If you get too much
attention, it’s a what? – [Audience Members] It’s a bad thing. – It’s a bad thing. So then naturally as you grow up, then you start picking
up this stuff, right? All this stuff when you come up on stage, you’re like, oh yeah, it’s gonna be bad, I’m gonna look foolish,
I’m self conscious, people won’t like me, and in school even, how many have done school projects where you have to
present to groups, right? And then all your classmates and all that are all fucking mean
sons of bitches, right? (crowd laughs) They all give you a hard time, right? Like, oh man! You know, they’re joking
around, all this stuff, and then it makes you even
more self conscience, right? And afterwards, as an adult, you go into the workforce, you graduate, and now you’re working, growing your company, doing your business. All that is still there. All that shit, it’s there, all right? And then you wonder, how come I’m not as effective, right? And everybody’s trying
to give you techniques, I’m going to give you a ton
of techniques this weekend. A ton of techniques. But the way I like to always do it is give you the… (audience muttering)
The what? – The mindset.
– Mindset first. Then I’m going to give you the techniques, because the techniques are? Very over? – Whelming.
– Whelming. Are very overwhelming, you’ll see. If you’re doing, you’re doing call, you’re doing call one on one on the phone, you’re talking to one person, yes? – [Audience] Yes! – You fail, you fail in private. (audience laughs) You get rejected, right? On the phone, no big deal. When you’re closing a platform? Damn, damn. I’ve experienced stuff like where I do my speech, I do my close, I say, okay, for those of you who want to, who want to take action right now, please go to the back of the room. Nobody fucking moved.
(audience laughs) Right? Yes, go to the back, yes, yes. Nobody moved. Right? Is the mic gone, is the mic gone? Yes, go to the back, right, shit. And then you have one
person who stands up, going to the fucking bathroom. (audience laughs) Right, it’s like the other way. Like you fail in public and other people, whoever, if you’re closing in groups. Guess what? They’re all watching. Right, they’re all watching. Okay, are you going to do it? Is he going to do it?
Are you going to do it? Should I do it? Should I set up? No, maybe I’ll wait, I’ll let you do it first. (stuttering) I don’t know, right? They’re all watching each other, that’s the group dynamic
in the group, right? So it’s very very interesting, and I gotta fix this. Jenny, can you help me? It keeps falling apart. Thank you. A round of applause for Jenny, by the way! (audience cheering) Thank you, thank you, thank you. You need to be okay with this, you see how most speakers, they’ll be all self conscious, like with this thing right now, see what it’s teaching you, you get it? This is, are you comfortable with, hey, you know what,
something that’s not working? What do you do, right? Are you fixing it? Are you going to ignore it? That’s okay. It doesn’t affect you, I’m still talking. It doesn’t affect the interaction and it doesn’t affect the experience. To do this, you need to be, you need to have a lot of self confidence. ‘Cause most people, they would be anxious as fuck, right? Oh my god, am I going
to lose my next part, what I’m gonna say? No, usually, I don’t like this kind of, I like the mic with this,
’cause I move a lot. This is for people that speak like this. (audience laughs) I like to jump up and down right, okay.

80 thoughts on “Can You Overcome The Fear Of Public Speaking?

  1. Fear has been a big battle, it runs rampant in my sport so I love to overcome that, to challenge it head on, because there is nothing that feels as accomplished as overcoming a fear, and something that has blocked you in such a big way. – Laura Wilkinson

  2. I have no fear of public speaking, but instead, speak too rapidly. Would be a great idea to see a video on timing, pacing, and delivery! Thanks for the great videos.

  3. Dan lock you my friend have helped us out a lot I really appreciate every single video that you have been posting I really love every single video in I have been learning something from every single video then you actually helped us with public speaking a long time ago but you just don't know it if you help us out with one fears most likely word aloud to him were supposed to overcome our fears with anything else so really appreciate it keep it up bro

  4. Watch kids, They don't think about it they just belt out what they believe… not second guessing, or worried about opinions of others. They focus on the content instead of the audience.

  5. Have an idea that you want me to make

    a video about? Want to ask me a question

    about business, life, or success?

    Comment below. I will consider making

    a video.

  6. I'm Md Asif Alam, graduating, Jharkhand.
    I have written a book when I was in class 9. In which I have discovered various formulas that solves various mysteries of universe. And also proved things like mysterious healing and positive thoughts. I'm 360, have more then 46 certificates in different areas, like Dance, Painting, Sports, Graphics, Modeling, Studies, Public speaking, and so on. But never got any opportunity to prove myself.
    Thus I need your support and power of speech in order to express myself to the world.

  7. It's just practice and how bad you want to learn to speak publicly

    Society has gave us a disadvantage towards public speaking

    But if you want to learn…anything I possible 👌😁

  8. Ideas for videos, how to do save more time, how to work faster, how to improve your concentration. In my opinion these things are pretty important, what do you say shifu

  9. That energy you feel when public speaking can be interpreted in two ways, nervouses or excitement.

    I've always found the latter to be of more benefit. Put that energy into making your presentation more enticing💪

  10. Public speaking is no problem unless you don't know what you're talking about. Other than that it's truly an exhilarating experience.

  11. We all have fears. It's a normal human reaction. Courage is what separates those who face them, overcome them, from the rest.
    That's how grow to become better.

  12. This is definitely gold. by the way, it is a PRIVATE invitation too. Wow, did Jennie tape your microphone to your ear and that calm like ice attitude… must take years to learn this.

  13. Like anything face your fears again and again till it becomes comfortable. Don't fear the micro moment rather see it as steps to the macro goal. TAKE ACTION – ASSESS – LEARN – ACTION AGAIN

  14. i was good with public speaking in high school but coming to university changed all that
    But im trying to work on my confidence with my youtube channel

  15. Hey Sifu, I wanted to ask if you could make a video about which assets people can invest in after obtaining a high income skill or two? Also a video on how much being a mentor yourself and what it means to you and how it has changed your life !

  16. Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence. — Vince Lombardi

  17. Hi Mr.Dan,

    I am developing my product with my partner. along this jurney I make a special demand on me to make it the best looking. Resulting some conflicts with my partner.

    Can you tell me what would be considered (micro-management) and what wouldn't? Well, I really need my product to be at the best level it can be.



  19. Hey Dan,
    You are such an inspiration and life saver for young generation like us
    Love from Bangladesh

    Can you suggest some books for business ideas?

  20. please do more self confidence videos! how to talk in public, how to stand up for yourself etc. my parents are emotionally abusive and overcontrolling, and have been my whole life. I don't have any confidence at all and im extremely codependent. im really trying to change

  21. Thanks so much for the awesome video Dan 🔥 This will definitely help me Grow my Business and Become Wealthy!! Keep it up! 💯💯🙌

  22. Its interesting to think that the reason nobody gets up and goes to the back of the room is through fear too. No one wants to be the first to make a move for a fear of standing out. Yet, the second one makes a move, the rest will follow – the sheep mentality

  23. So the bad routine is the problem yes? Cause when we young our parents thought to speak not loud when you speak in public

    but when you grown up you need speak louder to get notice in your work.

    So what we need to do is change the bad routine to good one yes?

    Thanks Sifu Dan for your video everyday.

  24. I had to use my backup earphones while watching this. It has earbuds that are too small for my ears so I tape them to my ears to hold them in place, and then I saw this 4:50. OMG, the coincidence.

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